YOUR COURSE
Understand Your
Conflict Response
Most people try to fix conflict by learning better communication skills.
But as long as your nervous system is running an automatic response underneath, applying those skills might feel like an uphill battle.
This course helps you identify your conflict response, and start changing it.
When you finish, you won't react perfectly every time. But you'll know why you reacted the war you did. You'll catch it sooner and you'll have more control over what happens next, in your conversations, your relationships, and your leadership.
That shift, from reacting on autopilot to responding with awareness, is where real conflict resolution begins.
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What's Really Driving Your Behavior in Conflict
Most conflict resolution advice starts too late. This lesson explains why conflict begins in the body, before you've had a chance to choose how to respond.
Most conflict resolution advice starts too late. This lesson explains why conflict begins in the body, before you've had a chance to choose how to respond.
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Take the Assessment
Five minutes. Four patterns. One honest look at how your nervous system actually responds when conflict hits.
Five minutes. Four patterns. One honest look at how your nervous system actually responds when conflict hits.
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Part 1: Explanation
Your fight response doesn't ask for permission. This lesson explains what's happening in your brain and body, and what it's costing you as a leader.
Your fight response doesn't ask for permission. This lesson explains what's happening in your brain and body, and what it's costing you as a leader.
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Part 2: Awareness
You can't change what you can't see. This lesson makes your fight response visible through specific exercises and a pattern cues checklist.
You can't change what you can't see. This lesson makes your fight response visible through specific exercises and a pattern cues checklist.
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Part 3: Regulation
When your fight response fires, you can't think your way out of it. This lesson gives you six tools to regulate your nervous system in the moment.
When your fight response fires, you can't think your way out of it. This lesson gives you six tools to regulate your nervous system in the moment.
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Part 4: Rewiring
Regulation is what you do in the moment. Rewiring is what you do over time. This lesson shows you how the brain actually changes and gives you the tool to start.
Regulation is what you do in the moment. Rewiring is what you do over time. This lesson shows you how the brain actually changes and gives you the tool to start.
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Part 1: Explanation
Your flight response doesn't look like running. It looks like professionalism, patience, and picking your battles. This lesson shows you what's actually happening underneath.
Your flight response doesn't look like running. It looks like professionalism, patience, and picking your battles. This lesson shows you what's actually happening underneath.
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Part 2: Awareness
Flight is one of the hardest patterns to see in yourself because it feels like the right decision. This lesson helps you recognize it before the escape happens.
Flight is one of the hardest patterns to see in yourself because it feels like the right decision. This lesson helps you recognize it before the escape happens.
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Part 3: Regulation
When your flight response activates, your nervous system is preparing you to run. This lesson gives you six tools to interrupt the escape pull and stay present.
When your flight response activates, your nervous system is preparing you to run. This lesson gives you six tools to interrupt the escape pull and stay present.
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Part 4: Rewiring
Every time you avoid a conflict and survive, your brain logs avoidance as safe. This lesson shows you how to start giving it new evidence.
Every time you avoid a conflict and survive, your brain logs avoidance as safe. This lesson shows you how to start giving it new evidence.
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Part 1: Explanation
You know what you want to say. Your body just won't let you say it. This lesson explains what's happening when conflict locks you in place.
You know what you want to say. Your body just won't let you say it. This lesson explains what's happening when conflict locks you in place.
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Part 2: Awareness
Freeze can look like composure from the outside. This lesson helps you map your triggers and recognize the pattern before your voice disappears.
Freeze can look like composure from the outside. This lesson helps you map your triggers and recognize the pattern before your voice disappears.
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Part 3: Regulation
You cannot think your way out of a freeze response. This lesson gives you six tools to unlock your body and bring your voice back online.
You cannot think your way out of a freeze response. This lesson gives you six tools to unlock your body and bring your voice back online.
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Part 4: Rewiring
Your nervous system learned that silence was safe. This lesson shows you how to teach it that speaking is safe too.
Your nervous system learned that silence was safe. This lesson shows you how to teach it that speaking is safe too.
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Part 1: Explanation
Your fawn response looks like diplomacy, flexibility, and emotional intelligence. This lesson shows you what it's actually costing your leadership.
Your fawn response looks like diplomacy, flexibility, and emotional intelligence. This lesson shows you what it's actually costing your leadership.
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Part 2: Awareness
The gap between what you think and what you say under pressure is where the fawn response lives. This lesson makes that gap visible.
The gap between what you think and what you say under pressure is where the fawn response lives. This lesson makes that gap visible.
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Part 3: Regulation
The fawn response moves faster than your rational brain. This lesson gives you six tools to create a pause between the trigger and the agreement.
The fawn response moves faster than your rational brain. This lesson gives you six tools to create a pause between the trigger and the agreement.
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Part 4: Rewiring
Your nervous system learned that appeasement was safe. This lesson shows you how to start collecting evidence that honesty is safe too.
Your nervous system learned that appeasement was safe. This lesson shows you how to start collecting evidence that honesty is safe too.
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From Awareness to Choice
You won't stop getting triggered. But you'll start catching it sooner, regulating faster, and choosing your response instead of reacting on autopilot.
You won't stop getting triggered. But you'll start catching it sooner, regulating faster, and choosing your response instead of reacting on autopilot.
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